Internal and societal should’s and should not’s have developed deeply ingrained patterns in our ways of being that stifle – I would say violently – spontaneous expression of who we are. This spontaneous expression has historically been related either to witchery/childlike behavior on one hand or genius/superhuman feats on the other. Could this be due to a simultaneous fear and desire to feel so alive and safe that you allow yourself to get curious and play?
When I chose to consciously cultivate pleasure in my life, I am releasing attachment to what I believe pleasure is and allowing it to blossom on a moment to moment basis. One of the essential foundations to this is feeling safe enough to not do violence to yourself…
Here are a couple of explorations to tap into the difference between pleasure and violence in your whole being:
Ask yourself: Do I feel safe enough to not do violence to myself? Has violence towards myself become normalized? Notice what happens in your body. Maybe journal about it.
Daily Practice: Do a body scan and simply notice areas where your body feels pleasure, areas where your body feels pain and areas where your body feels numb. Don’t try to change any of it, just bring consciousness to feeling.
Cultivate curiosity: Allow yourself to be in the unknown. Set aside 5-20 minutes as often as you can (maybe you’ll find so much pleasure in this exploration that you’ll make time…). Request that your mind fall into the background. Begin in stillness maybe with your hands on your heart. Drop into noticing your heart beat. Without forcing or holding back your urges, invite your body to begin moving, your voice to begin sounding. If it feels more comfortable you may want to put on music but the idea is to allow yourself to move, sound and breathe from within without any external influence. Notice when pauses want to happen and pause, notice when ecstatic movement wants to happen and follow that, notice when screaming or chanting or any other kind of sounding wants to come forth and allow that.
By dwelling in the unknown you’re tapping into your own inner knowing that may just surprise and delight you! And, in practicing connecting to this place of flow, you're preparing yourself to apply this permissiveness in daily life.
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