Conscious Intimacy Alchemy
Every interaction we have has the potential to stifle our true nature or allow it to emerge. Conscious Intimacy Alchemy interweaves the microcosm with the macrocosm, the personal with the divine. Exposing blockages within this interface creates a cauldron where a new way of relating may surge forth.
The term conscious is juxtaposed here with control. When I am aware of what’s happening as my divine essence flows through me, I am fully present to how it feels and have the capacity to discern where my impulses emerge from. Control is mental and seeks complete “safety” by shutting down any action/expression that I do not define as appropriate or within the boundaries of “who I am”. One of the main foundations of the alchemy in CIA is cellular consciousness in the whole body. As we cultivate that together, the incessant mental demands will drop into the background as you release into the pleasure that is available when listening to the body.
I offer individuals and couples non-prescriptive explorations to enhance their capacity to experience more layers of intimacy. We will co-create somatic experiments where I actively engage with you in the patterns that prevent you from dropping deeper into relationships (of any kind). Some examples may be: decoupling sex and touch; focusing exclusively on a goal, which often bypasses the juiciest interactions; difficulty in trusting others enough to feel safe in expressing your divine essence.
Some of the explorations that may be engaged in CIA are Contact Improvisation Dance, boundary work, full permission to express desires, erotic dance, conscious touch, conscious cuddling, body based meditations to enhance capacity to be with the intense energy. All sessions are fully clothed and based on your process of navigating into the precise experience that will invite a blossoming into an ever-fuller intimacy with life. The goal is never to “fix” anything…simply to create and maintain an alchemical container that will offer crystal clear reflections of what is holding you back from Love.
The term conscious is juxtaposed here with control. When I am aware of what’s happening as my divine essence flows through me, I am fully present to how it feels and have the capacity to discern where my impulses emerge from. Control is mental and seeks complete “safety” by shutting down any action/expression that I do not define as appropriate or within the boundaries of “who I am”. One of the main foundations of the alchemy in CIA is cellular consciousness in the whole body. As we cultivate that together, the incessant mental demands will drop into the background as you release into the pleasure that is available when listening to the body.
I offer individuals and couples non-prescriptive explorations to enhance their capacity to experience more layers of intimacy. We will co-create somatic experiments where I actively engage with you in the patterns that prevent you from dropping deeper into relationships (of any kind). Some examples may be: decoupling sex and touch; focusing exclusively on a goal, which often bypasses the juiciest interactions; difficulty in trusting others enough to feel safe in expressing your divine essence.
Some of the explorations that may be engaged in CIA are Contact Improvisation Dance, boundary work, full permission to express desires, erotic dance, conscious touch, conscious cuddling, body based meditations to enhance capacity to be with the intense energy. All sessions are fully clothed and based on your process of navigating into the precise experience that will invite a blossoming into an ever-fuller intimacy with life. The goal is never to “fix” anything…simply to create and maintain an alchemical container that will offer crystal clear reflections of what is holding you back from Love.
After every intimacy coaching session with Jodi, I left with a heightened sense of what was happening in me and how it was meshing with what was happening in my partner. It was a sacred time to be with both myself and the connection between my partner and I. Through the practices Jodi invited us into, the partnership's patterns and dynamics emerged naturally - like a microcosm of our wider experience outside these sessions. Jodi has the capacity to know / feel what was happening in me and follow the thread to get to a core belief or knowing. This capacity helped me explore myself with more compassion. There was seeing, lots of laughter, connection and truth in these sessions.
- Emma, Nevada
- Emma, Nevada
Many of the practices recommended for Sex and Love Addicts are negatively based. This means they're advised to avoid the things they're addicted to at all costs. My approach is different. I have an open curiosity around if we can co-create an opening toward getting what you desire in a healthy and heart supported way.
Does love exist beyond needs, she asked?
It depends if you’re willing to stand in your Sovereign being, came the reply. If you show up as your best self and take responsibility for your own needs, you won’t require your romantic partner to care take you.
But why do I always have to show up as my best self when my partner is supposed to love me no matter what?
Have you noticed your own energy and expectations when you bring your problems to your partner?
Well, yes I go to him because I need support, when I feel like I’m not powerful enough to handle a problem myself.
And every time he aids you in resolving the problem do you feel stronger or more dependent?
Well when I come from that place I suppose I feel weaker.
And once you’ve done that many times, can you distinguish whether you keep coming back to him because you need him or because you love him?
Well, I know I love him but I also need him.
And how are you discerning between those two when they are so entangled?
I suppose I can’t.
Precisely…showing up authentically with your partner does not mean handing over the privilege of making your own dreams come true. Once you release needing validation and support you’ll have a period where you don’t know if you love your partner anymore because what you thought love felt like has actually been need. Allow yourself the spaciousness to be still and listen to how your heart spirals and if your cells move towards your partner or away once you’ve removed your needs. If your cells all feel magnetically attracted to your partner and your heart engorges in a pleasant glow, you’ll know you truly love him. If your cells feel magnetically repulsed and your heart feels bland when you’re near him, you’ll know that your relationship has been founded on trauma bonding and it’s time to release it.
But why do I always have to show up as my best self when my partner is supposed to love me no matter what?
Have you noticed your own energy and expectations when you bring your problems to your partner?
Well, yes I go to him because I need support, when I feel like I’m not powerful enough to handle a problem myself.
And every time he aids you in resolving the problem do you feel stronger or more dependent?
Well when I come from that place I suppose I feel weaker.
And once you’ve done that many times, can you distinguish whether you keep coming back to him because you need him or because you love him?
Well, I know I love him but I also need him.
And how are you discerning between those two when they are so entangled?
I suppose I can’t.
Precisely…showing up authentically with your partner does not mean handing over the privilege of making your own dreams come true. Once you release needing validation and support you’ll have a period where you don’t know if you love your partner anymore because what you thought love felt like has actually been need. Allow yourself the spaciousness to be still and listen to how your heart spirals and if your cells move towards your partner or away once you’ve removed your needs. If your cells all feel magnetically attracted to your partner and your heart engorges in a pleasant glow, you’ll know you truly love him. If your cells feel magnetically repulsed and your heart feels bland when you’re near him, you’ll know that your relationship has been founded on trauma bonding and it’s time to release it.
