Thus here is a short practice to put yourself in contact with what you seek approval for and what you do not approve of yourself and begin to release the seeking to actually obtain.
If you know EFT or tapping you may implement that here, and if not simply being gently tapping the crown of your head with the tips of your fingers on one hand and the center of your chest on the sternum with the other. As you're tapping begin saying repeatedly "I fully and completely accept myself just the way I am". It may become monotonous but continue until you get past that and actually begin to allow understanding to run through your being of all the ways you have not approved of yourself - ex: I eat too much, I don't work hard enough, I'm not smart enough, etc. Just let these things flow through your conciousness without attaching to them.
When they are done flowing bring the list back into your mind and go through each one by one saying:
I "full name" fully approve of 'my laziness'
I "full name" fully approve of 'my inability to X'
Keep going until you exhast the list that came to you for this time, more may come up as you do this practice as often as you choose.
Finally, come onto your knees with your forhead on the ground, hips in the air and hands above your head. Begin to ask the Universe/God/Buddha/etc. "Please allow me to approve of myself fully and completely just the way I am, Please allow 'my mother' to approve of herself fully and completely just the way she is, Please allow 'my aunt' to approve of herself fully and completely just the way she is, (and eventually) Please allow all beings on this earth to approve of themselves fully and completely, knowing that they are perfect just the way they are.